I think sometimes in life, there are moments that define us – something in your brain goes off and you want to change things that just weren’t working before.
I had two of these moments and they both rewired my brain dramatically – today’s post on life-changing get to know yourself questions is based on these personal experiences.
This is How I Got to Know Myself Better
I started asking myself a lot of questions after two main events – here’s a brief recap.
Event #1: a 6 Letter Word
When I was 23 years old, I was told that high-dysphasia pre-cancerous cells were found in my body.
Now, obviously this isn’t nearly as life-threatening as a cancer diagnosis itself, but no one wants to hear the word cancer associated with their health by any means.
At the time, I was working in the film industry alongside my husband.
The first thing you should know about the film industry is that the hours don’t leave a lot of time to have a real life – when you work between 12 to 15 hours a day, five days a week, there’s hardly time to go grocery shopping never mind making plans with loved ones!
Thinking about how short life is still makes me uncomfortable but after this news (and ongoing checkups for about 6 years), I really began to evaluate what matters most to me.
My husband, parents, sister, extended family, and friends were it so, I knew I had to make a change.
God-willing, we also wanted to start a family one day if my health improved.
Event #2: New Life
When I held my daughter for the first time – everything changed.
I was a different person before and after I gave birth.
No more low self-esteem. No more over-analyzing. No more excuses. No more tolerance for unwelcome opinions.
More self-love. More self-acceptance.
For me, having a child means that nothing else matters – her well-being, development, and safety are my priorities.
Once you become a mother, pettiness and negativity just don’t have a place in your life – and learning to let go of toxic habits and people is essential to being the best mom you can be.
How to Use these Get to Know Yourself Questions
Now, all of this being said, you don’t need to experience matters of life and death to work on self-improvement – it’s the questions you’re forced to answer from events like this that really put things into perspective.
What actually matters to you? Who do you want to be? And how are you working towards this?
Honestly answering the following list of questions to get to know yourself will have a lasting impact on your life and can help in promoting self-love and growth.
I hope this list inspires you to Capture a Life You Love!
30 Life-Changing Questions to Ask Yourself
I think everyone has experienced crossroads at one point or another in their lives – whether it’s a relationship, career, or other life change.
These questions to get to know yourself better aren’t meant to be easy – they’re meant to provoke deep thinking and reflection.
If for any reason, you can’t reach an answer at this time, just pin this post and revisit it later.
Answer all 30 questions at once or use them as personal growth journal prompts to create a reflection entry once daily for 30 days!
Get to know yourself better by practicing self-love and understanding – you feel the way you do for a reason and being able to define your why can be just as powerful as reaching self-acceptance.
Let’s get started with an incredibly important question you should ask yourself daily.
30 Life-Changing Get to Know Yourself Questions
1. Are you happy?
Be honest with yourself. Consider the little things that bring you joy. What would you need to change in order to make that answer a firm “YES!“
2. If you had only 3 months to live, how would you change your life? What would you do differently?
Why would you change? What is preventing you from making these changes now?
3. What’s something you don’t like about yourself?
Why don’t you like this? Have you tried to change it? What are you doing to change it?
4. Do you love yourself?
What things do you love about yourself? Why do you love these things?
Find a mirror and tell yourself! Note how you feel afterwards and if it didn’t feel sincere, understand why. This can be a very powerful and emotional exercise!
5. What lies are you telling yourself? What lies are you telling the people around you?
Are you limiting yourself with these beliefs? Do you pretend to be someone that you’re not in front of certain people? Why? What makes you want their approval?
6. How do you want to be remembered?
Do you want to be remembered as a good employee? Or do you want to be remembered as an incredible mother and friend?
Over two-thirds of Americans say they want to be remembered for the memories they’ve shared with loved ones – and this is one of the most important get to know yourself questions when it comes to your role in the home versus the workplace.
Consider the things that matter most to you and re-evaluate your priorities if your answer to this question doesn’t quite align with your current habits.
7. What makes you feel loved?
Consider who and what. How do they make you feel loved? Why don’t you spend more time with them?
8. What is your biggest fear?
Is it something that keeps you from moving forward? Is the fear debilitating?
9. Do you have any regrets? Why do you regret this decision and what would you do differently?
Consider how making a different decision would have impacted your life as it is today. And if you are truly happy, stop beating yourself up for younger, less wiser days!
Can you make a change now? Make a list of the positives and negatives associated with it.
10. Do you have a 5 year plan? What is it?
Do you have 10 year and 20 year plans? What things do you plans have in common?
Does the 5 year plan you wrote this many years ago reflect where you are today?
11. When will it be enough? Are you satisfied with everything you have?
If this is everything you will ever achieve, are you happy?
Or do you constantly find yourself setting new goals and thinking you’ll finally be happy after you achieve the next one?
12. Do you wakeup feeling happy? Why or why not?
How do you feel when you start a new day? Are you excited? Worried? Miserable? Consider why.
13. Do you believe you have a life purpose? What is yours?
What do you think you were meant to do? Have you done it?
14. Do you believe that everything happens for a reason? Why or why not?
What events in your life have made you feel this way?
15. Who is someone you admire?
Why? What is it about this person you respect? Do you aspire to be like them? How?
16. Do you love what you do?
Why do you love it? Is there something you’d rather be doing? Why aren’t you doing it?
17. Are there people in your life that make you feel unworthy?
Why? Can you distance yourself from them? Do they make you feel guilty? How does that guilt affect your daily life?
18. How do you feel after failure?
Do you criticize yourself? Do you blame others? How does it impact your sense of self?
19. Are you accountable?
Do you take responsibility for your actions and the way you make people feel? Or do you blame other people and circumstances for the things that happen in your life? Do you consider people’s feeling before you act?
20. Do you accept criticism?
Are you willing to work on yourself? Do you think there is some truth to the suggestions others have for you? How do you react to criticism?
21. Is there something you’re longing for?
What is it? Would obtaining it change your life? How?
23. What do you want more of in your life? What do you want less of?
How can you create balance? What would your life look like if you achieved more balance?
24. What things do you admire about your parents?
And in what ways do you want to be completely different? What traits have you inherited from them? Is this something that you are proud of?
25. How do you make decisions?
Based on fear? Approval? Your morals and values?
26. Do you practice self-care?
How? Do you make wellness a priority? Do you meet all of your wellness needs?
27. How do you want to be perceived?
How do you want people to feel after they meet you? What personality traits do you want to be known for? What are you doing to get there?
28. If today were your last day, would you be happy with the life you lived?
Why or why not? What would you have done differently?
29. If your home caught fire right now, what would you save?
Did you think of people or things first? Why are these things important to you? What do you think this says about you?
30. Are you a better person today than you were yesterday?
10 years ago? How? Are you trying to be the best version of you possible? What does this ideal version of you look like? How are they different than the person you are right now?
Reference this list of get to know yourself questions as often as need be in your journey to self-love and acceptance.
I hope this post has challenged you to live more intentionally. And maybe, it’s even helped you discover areas of your life that you’ve been neglecting.
Wishing you health and wellness, friends!